Rabbis as Heroes
by Jonathan Rosenblum
August 19, 2007
Rabbis as Heroes
Over the last four weeks, I have had the privilege of visiting three communities in the hinterlands of American Orthodox life – Mercer Island, Washington (a suburb of Seattle), La Jolla, California (just outside of San Diego), and Dunwoody, Georgia (a suburb of Atlanta). On the face of it, it would be hard to imagine less promising soil for Orthodoxy to take hold. Yet in each place, I found shuls of between 140 and 300 families.
Each of these communities exists only because an intrepid rabbi put down stakes in a place in which there was not even a minyan
of shomer Shabbos Jews. Such efforts are typically associated with Chabad. But both Rabbi Jeffrey Wohlgelernter in La Jolla and Rabbi Binyomin Friedman in Atlanta are products of Yeshivat Ner Israel. (Rabbi Yechezkel Kornfeld, the rav
of the Young Israel of Mercer Island, is Lubavitch-trained, but he did not found the shul.)
In each of the three cities, the odds were stacked against creating a vibrant Orthodox shul. Upscale suburban communities, with single-family homes on large lots are ill-suited to attracting any significant number of already observant Jews into the area. If an Orthodox shul was to be built, the only option was to attract those who were already living in the neighborhood. That meant drawing members not only from the existing Reform and Conservative congregations, but also from the ranks of the totally unaffiliated.
None of these congregations are comprised entirely of shomer Shabbos
members. In both LaJolla and Atlanta more than half the membership is not yet shomer Shabbos
. Yet, the existence of thriving shuls, with thrice daily minyanim and overflow Shabbos services in an environment long assumed to be hostile to Orthodoxy tells us something important about the direction of American Jewry: Those who care about their children's future as Jews are increasingly recognizing Orthodoxy as the only hope for the future.
Affiliation with an Orthodox shul, even for families who are not shomer Shabbos
, has immense implications. The chance of the children attending Jewish day schools increases greatly. And the level of Jewish knowledge and familiarity with Jewish practice of the young members is far greater than if they had never seen the inside of an Orthodox shul. The act of joining an Orthodox congregation removes the stigma from Orthodoxy for family members.
I met a number of black-hatted young men in these communities who came from marginally observant homes, and many others from non-observant but Orthodox-affiliated homes, who ended up in Israel at ba'al teshuva
yeshivos. In many cases, the parents followed their children's upward spiritual trajectory.
THE RABBIS WHO HEAD these congregations are the exemplars of ahavas Yisrael
in our times. Without an overflowing ahavas Yisrael
, they have no chance of success. Above all that means the ability to relate to and accept every Jew as one finds them in terms of religious observance and Jewish knowledge. If those that the rabbi seeks to draw close sense that his concern with them is contingent on their becoming fully observant, they will recoil.
The rabbi must learn to rejoice in every small step forward on a spiritual journey that can take many years, and which usually involves numerous ups and downs, and he must possess the ability not to lose heart when the inevitable obstacles arise along the way.
The degree of personal involvement in every aspect of their congregants' lives required of these rabbis is quite unlike anything experienced by those in more traditional shuls. Each member family is unique in terms of its background and internal dynamics, and those dynamics are constantly shifting during the teshuva process. Each congregant requires his or her individual approach. The only rule to guide the rabbi is: There are no rules.
The demands upon the rabbis' families are also quite unlike those of the families of rabbis in more traditional settings. My Shabbos in Dunwoody, for instance, there were over 25 people for both the main Shabbos meals, and a dozen people sleeping over at the Friedman's home. Those numbers I was informed by members of the shul are relatively modest, and the presence of at least three more unopened folding tables in the dining room lent credibility to that claim.
The demands on the rabbis' wives are not limited to entertaining large numbers of guests. They are also intimately involved in the lives of the female congregants as role models, friends, and counselors.
Even the rabbis' children are an integral part of the effort. They learn early to adapt to sharing their homes with strangers. And they are heavily invested in each family in the congregation. Even after they move away, their calls home usually revolve around families in the congregation. In their new settings—even learning in kollel in Eretz Yisrael—they invariably find themselves drawn to kiruv work. One of the rabbis I met told me that his children have developed an acute sensitivity to the needs of others. As a consequence, they are always among the first in yeshiva or seminary to spot a classmate with some emotional need and to offer support.
The rabbis in what might be called kiruv congregations have to be willing to put aside their own ego needs to an even larger extent than their colleagues in more traditional shuls. It can take years before they gather a core group capable of listening to sophisticated shiurim
. The shiurim
offered have to meet the needs of the congregants, not the rabbi's desire to "say Torah." Rabbi Wohlgelernter animatedly described to me a siyum
, with his Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Yaakov Weinberg, zt"l, in attendance.
In addition, there are unique frustrations that go with the position. One is that some of the congregants who progress furthest religiously will inevitably move to larger Orthodox communities, where there are greater educational opportunities for their children.
Another is that the welcoming, open door policy of these shuls ensures that many members will have no understanding of the religious standards set by the rabbi. And there will always be a certain percentage of congregants who feel frustrated in their own teshuva process, and find the rabbi the easiest person to blame.
Yet for all the rabbis I met the privilege of being able to facilitate their fellow Jews on the path of coming closer to Hashem and the joy of watching them do so compensates for the incessant demands and the frustrations that go with the territory. And that makes them heroes of ahavas Yisrael in our time.
Related Topics: American Jewry & Continuity
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